Have you ever heard one of these comments from your bosses? "You're not ready for the next level yet. We can discuss this again next year." "You need to speak more/less in meetings." "You're too direct/too soft." If you have ever been held back from a promotion (or haven't been offered a role) because you failed to demonstrate leadership potential you may have an executive presence ("EP") problem. But first, let's try to better understand what EP actually is. So, How Do Execu
Do you know this feeling when you have spent months (or years) working on something and you are really the subject matter expert and then someone (most likely a guy) who really doesn't know much about the topic starts explaining it to you as if you were a little child or slow-minded?
You feel embarrassed, frustrated, angry or maybe at loss of words.
Smile! You've been mansplained.
Mansplaining: "the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner r
My academic years presented a clear formula for measuring merit: everyone got the same assignments or tests and the final grade depended on one's efforts and talents in preparing for these.
I started my professional career in a global investment bank in New York City. It was a very competitive and somewhat political environment, yet it was fairly meritocratic. Only the merit criteria changed drastically from my college years so I had to figure out the written and unwritten
On November 8th, Donald Trump was elected President of the United States. It was more of a disappointment than a surprise to me. I somehow thought that the winds of progress were stronger than his rhetoric of fear mongering and bullying. But this is not a political post. During the week I connected with some of my successful female and/or minority/immigrant friends and realized that we all had the scary sensation of a sexist and racist boss taking charge. We felt helpless; we
As a third-culture child who switched many zip codes (more about this here), I’ve gotten used to being a misunderstood outsider everywhere I go. I have always attributed this to me being a foreigner, to me being younger, to me having a strong personality. In my mind, it was always my fault and my responsibility to get better, to become a stronger communicator, to speak more softly, to be less direct. During my time in Brazil, I started noticing again and again that I would be
The Bain study about women's ambitions and confidence I previously wrote about found that women's experience in mid-career was different from that of men. Women felt that they didn't match the stereotypical models of success of their companies and lacked supervisors' support for their career progress.
Other research findings supported this claim - "What’s not happening are discussions of goals, career strategies, job satisfaction, overall trajectory and—especially—the simp
One of the push-backs I get when I talk about why we don't have more women leaders revolves around the belief that women aren't interested in leadership. I've even hear this from some career women who say bluntly - "I don't need the burden of being a leader in my company!"
I can kind of relate. I never thought of myself as a leader or someone particularly ambitious. To me, ambition was for people who wanted power, titles and money and I was never really driven by any of the
Numerous articles have been written about the Gender Gap in STEM careers, business, political positions and pretty much every other professional context where women are rarely seen in leadership positions. Much is to be said in favor of raising awareness, but at some point we need to start moving the needle on this issue. There are several barriers, however, that are holding us from moving forward: 1. The terminology is problematic. Gender Bias, Gender Gap, Gender Equality, G